Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Back
Facebook has largely been used as an attraction tool between the sexes. In fact it is increasingly popular amongst people who are trying to find a mate and for this reason it has become known as a social networking dating site. I know countless couples who first met on Facebook and it is a continuing trend. The same kinds of attraction techniques will apply when you are trying to use Facebook to get your ex back, you just have to be clever about what you are doing and avoid the common post break up pitfalls that befall exes.
Facebooking With Your Ex – Advantages And Disadvantages
Undoubtedly Facebook has taken over many aspects of our lives with more and more people using it as a means to stay in touch with family and friends. It is great for this purpose, but what happens when an over-avid user utilises it as a way to snoop on people, especially their partners, sometimes resulting in crossed-wires?
Did you know that in a current UK survey that Facebook was cited in a third of divorce cases? That is incredible and something that you should think about. It is a powerful tool to get your ex back when used correctly, but could be utterly damaging to your relationship if you do the wrong things.
There are so many people that have broken up because of the power of Facebook. Nothing is secret on this platform and couples can use it to pry on every aspect of their partner’s life. Is this healthy? Maybe not, if there is trust there should be no need to do this.
Let’s look at the positive side of Facebook for a moment. In the same way that Facebook can cause countless break ups, it can also be used to heal relationships and get couples back together. The latter is a much more onerous task unfortunately and this is because we use it for the wrong reasons and don’t know how to make it work to our advantage. Thankfully this article is going to teach you how to make it an effective tool in your arsenal for getting your ex back.
Social Networking Can Save And Reignite Dead Or Dying Relationships
We all know about the phenomenon of online dating in recent years. This is a growing trend which seems to be more and more effective. It is even becoming the preferred way of people to meet ‘the one’. That is because you are able to connect to someone on a deeper level and ‘click’ with them, more than you ever could in a night club. The same goes for Facebook. Your personal profile gives away a lot about the person you are, it can be an immediate attraction booster if used correctly. I want you to keep that in mind as we go on to discuss what you should do about your Facebook friendship with your ex after the break up.
To Stay Friends Or Not To Stay Friends?
Lot’s of people have differing views about this one. Hard liners tend to agree that you should immediately ‘un-friend’ your ex after the break up as it is better for your mental health. You don’t have to see what they are up to all the time or waste your effort online stalking them to garner any clues about what they are up to. Others suggest that it is a brilliant way to send a clear message to your ex, especially if you have been dumped.
Most people do tend to de-friend their exes after the break up, either out of self-protection or spite. We often react rashly based on our emotions and this can be the result. When someone dumps us we go into the attack mode because they have instigated pain and you want to hit out at them in return. It is a natural human reaction. You want to send them a message that you are not interested in what they are doing anymore and think that this will achieve it. However, this is not how your ex will react to you de-friending them, actually the opposite is the case.
What Way Does Your Ex React When You De-Friend Them on Facebook?
The speed at which you de-friend your ex will show them how you really feel about being dumped. It is a natural reaction to want to charge to the nearest computer or log into Facebook on your phone and cut them out of your life just like they cut you out of theirs. You think it will show them that they can’t treat you like that and get away with it. Unfortunately this is not how your ex sees it at all. When you are reactionary about being dumped you often jump in too soon and later regret your actions. If you are hoping to get your ex back in the future you have to watch out for this kind of emotional behaviour.
When you remove your ex from your friends list a short time after being dumped it will seem incredibly petty to them and make them realise that you are very wounded, a lot more that you want to let on. Another thing that it does is to tell your ex that you are trying to hurt them back, this can appear vindictive, spiteful, immature and petty. This is the last thing that you want to be as it ruins your chances of getting your ex to want you back.
In all honesty, your ex is probably going to laugh at being de-friended, that will be their first reaction. It speaks volumes in terms of showing them that you are angry and disgruntled about being dumped. It is a bad move to de-friend your ex after the break up, a really bad move – if you want to get them back that is. De-friend them all you like if you want nothing more to do with them, that way you can move much more quickly.
The Good News About Staying Friends With Your Ex On Facebook
When you delete your ex you have disabled the most valuable tool of all to win them back again. It can be used to your advantage in a number of ways to evoke feelings of nostalgia in them for your past relationship, to make them jealous, make them chase you, create desire in them, reverse the way that they currently see you and make them realise that they made a huge mistake in dumping you. You have to implement the strategies correctly though, do it wrong and you could end up looking very obvious, desperate and pathetic.
When you learn these specific Facebook techniques you will start to see a dramatic shift in the way that your ex treats you. They may start contacting you, taking more of an interest in what you do etc. Getting these moves spot on is key in winning back the love of your ex. This process is referred to as ‘Facebook Jiu-Jitsu’ and it is gaining in popularity because the methods used garner substantial results in a relatively short period of time.
Now do you see why keeping your ex as a Facebook friend is a smart move?
Crucial Steps In Using Facebook To Your Advantage
Step 1 – Don’t de-friend your ex, that’s an obvious one. Your ex will be sent a clear message that you are not hurting about the break up half as much as they expected. It highlights your independence and maturity too.
Step 2 – Don’t log into Facebook for a few days to check what they are up to or to update your own wall. Your ex will be relying on Facebook to keep tabs on you and see what you are up to. They will also be using it to check how you are feeling, so when you don’t seem to have the time or inclination to update your wall, they will soon realise that you are not that bothered about what they think about you. It also makes them start to wonder about what you are spending your time doing.
Step 3 - Don’t change your status to ‘single’. It is just too reactionary and let’s your ex know that they have gotten to you. This is what most people do soon after they get dumped and it speaks volumes to your ex. You may think that declaring yourself as ‘single’ will suddenly injure your ex’s pride, but it will only serve to amuse them.
Step 4 – Don’t write anything, update your wall or comment on friends’ walls for a while. When you don’t even bother to let the world kn0w what you are up to this will begin to make your ex ask questions. Their mind will go into overdrive about why you are not online like you used to be. They will begin to suspect that you could be out with someone else and getting on with your life. They will become so paranoid and curious about you that it will force them into doing something. This is when your ex usually gets in touch with you to see how you are. The best things about this method is that it is extremely effective in getting your ex to make the first move, and you didn’t have to do anything at all!
Why This Works
Your ex will think that you have more important things to be doing than logging in and checking out what they are up to aswell. They will be relying on Facebook as a means to check up on you post-break up. When you don’t give them the information that they expect it will frustrate them and make them become more reactionary as a result. That is when they may start to post stuff on their wall in an effort to get a reaction out of you. You see, they want to know that you still care about them after the break up. They want to comfort themselves with the fact that you are not moving on before them and that you are still hung up on them. Your ex uses Facebook to do exactly this and you unwittingly play right into their hands.
If you start to notice that your ex is posting emotional or hurtful things on their wall, this is a clear sign that they are trying to provoke you into giving off some clues that you are still hurting from the break up. When you don’t rise to this bait you are putting yourself in a much stronger position because it will tell your ex that you don’t give a damn what they are doing. Not only will this piss them off, but they will become more interested in you. Human psychology is a strange thing, but the less that you care, the more your ex starts to care. Your ex will then start acting in a different way towards you and you will be starting to think to yourself, ‘does my ex want me back?’ It is also a key way to make your ex miss you.
These first four techniques are very effective in making your ex sit up and take notice. It will cause them to feel vulnerable because they were expecting you to obsess over them and monitor their every move on Facebook. There are so many other techniques that you will want to implement to take it up a notch and really get a reaction from your ex. Remember this – the last thing that you want to do is to show desperation, weakness or convey to your ex that you cannot function without them. This is not attractive and only extends your break up or makes it become a permanent reality.
The Importance Of Being Attractive To Your Ex
Not only will the above techniques increase your chances of winning your ex back, they will also shift the way that your ex views you dramatically. It is not nice to hear that your ex did not find you attractive anymore, but the likliehood is that this was the case and this is why they decided to break up with you. Attractiveness is not all down to looks of course, a large proportion of it has to do with behaviours that we exhibit.
When you start to do the things that attracted your ex to you in the first place, you will notice a difference in their interactions with you. By eliminating unattractive behaviours like, Facebook stalking, being too obvious that you are having a good time after the break up and updating your wall every 5 minutes, you will suddenly become much more attractive to your ex again. This is key if you want to get them back. By implementing these techniques today you will make huge progress in changing the way that your ex thinks and feels about you.
Your Next Step – Facebook Jiu-Jitsu
There are so many more Facebook techniques that you should learn with the “Facebook Jiu-Jitsu” module over at Making Up Made Easy. You now need to understand how comments and photos etc can make your ex either pull away from you, or want you back.
Just some of the things that you will learn are:
- How to reignite your ex’s desire for you by alluding subtly about what you are getting up to
- The techniques that make your ex crave you and feel frightened that you are moving on without them.
- What to post and when to get instant results (make your ex message you)
- How to reverse your ex’s current mindset towards you, even if they have previously seemes unresponsive or have been ignoring you
- How to use jealousy to make your ex crazy with desire for you
Text Your Ex Back System
If you prefer using text messages to get your ex back then this is an incredibly powerful system devised and created by relationships expert – Michael Fiore. This stuff works. He has appeared on high profile tv shows such as the Rachel Ray Show And Fox News.
Basically this texting system is designed around human psychology and what will attract the opposite sex. These texts will create longing in your ex, make them remember what it was like at the start, make your ex miss you and create excitement again. Take a look at this free video to find out more about the man himself, his work and the system.
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