Why Won’t My Ex Talk To Me? Find Out The Truth
All you want to do is to get inside his head and figure out why your ex won’t talk to you after the breakup. They probably gave you some lame reasons that you know are just excuses. People will offer up bags of platitudes to make the break up as painless as possible. The trouble is, you are left wondering what really went wrong to make them change their mind about you.
Your ex isn’t talking about you for a reason or several reasons. The problem is that you can’t just ask them because they won’t give you an answer. That is why you have to do your own detective work and get to the bottom of things.
When your relationship officially ended, a lot of things were left up in the air. Since all breakups are different, it’s hard to determine which way the wind will blow for any given couple and a lot of factors can have an impact on the way that things go down. You probably assumed (correctly) that immediately following the breakup, things would be a little weird. You also probably expected that phase to pass by, and you could get back to communicating with your ex again – at least in some form or another.
If your ex is avoiding you and you don’t know why, it’s often easy to inject your own reasons for their absence. These reasons are usually based on fear or guilt and they usually assume the worst. You almost automatically think that your ex despises you, but you don’t know it to be true. You’re afraid that it is, but until you can understand some key breakups basics, you can’t fully wrap your mind around what’s really happening beneath the surface.
If your ex seems completely uninterested in communicating with you, there are probably reasons behind their actions. Instead of focusing all your attention on how you feel because they’re avoiding you, try to turn your attention on the possible reasons behind this abrupt change of heart. You know how the end of the relationship made you feel. Try focusing on how your ex is feeling for a change. That will open the floodgates of understanding and allow you to see the realities behind their actions.
Your Ex Could Just Be Down and Upset About The Breakup
It seems obvious to say that your ex may be hurt after your breakup. It’s so obvious in fact that it’s often overlooked – especially if your ex did everything within their power to convince you that they were okay with the breakup taking place and that things were going to be fine for them afterwards. They insisted that they were okay with it – but were they really? Is that just what they told you because they were afraid of what would happen if they were honest about their feelings?
If your ex hid how they truly felt from you while you were in the process of breaking up, they may blame you for not seeing through their charade – and they may hold you responsible for the fact that they are hurt now. That causes people to withdraw and focus on their own emotional issues and it prevents them from reaching out to others – especially if those others were the ones that caused that pain initially.
Is Your Ex Angry With You?
If your ex won’t communicate with you in a positive or productive manner, they may have revenge on the brain. Anger over seemingly uncontrollable situations is all-too-common, and it’s difficult to deal with in a positive manner. If the breakup took your ex by surprise, then they may be angry at how things played out, and anger is a difficult emotion to harness positively. If your ex is feeling a sense of frustration or anger at you or the breakup itself, it’s possible that they’ve become lost in a pit of negativity. Once there, it’s incredibly hard to overcome.
Your ex may want you to feel the hurt and rejection that the breakup made them feel. Just like it’s easy for you to become wrapped up in your own feelings, it’s equally easy for them as well. They don’t think that you know how they feel, even though you do. If you were unfaithful to your ex, the anger can be astronomical. If your ex seems wrapped up in anger, the best thing for you to do is to give them time. Don’t allow yourself to be wrapped up in the negativity. Only time can heal these wounds and allow both of you to come to a more productive place when communication strategies can become effective again.
Your Ex Just Doesn’t Care Anymore
In the end, you may have to face the possibility that your ex has lost interest in you completely and they want nothing more than to move on and leave your former relationship behind them. If this is the case, then what you do to try to reverse the process will often determine the outcome. If you act correctly by putting certain techniques into practice correctly, you can come out on top and regain not only their interest but their affection and respect as well.
Learning these techniques and the various methods that they teach plays an incredibly important role in how your situation turns out in the end. You need to recognize the various signs that indicate that your ex has, in fact, lost interest in you or your relationship. Recognition is the key to any reconciliation’s success – or its failure. In the end, it comes down to you. The choices you make and the path that you follow will determine where the situation leads. You can use these techniques correctly and find yourself back in your ex’s arms – or you can resort to negative behaviors and say goodbye to your relationship for good.
They Want To Punish You
Often, after a break up we want to punish the person that hurt us. Even if your ex broke up with you, they still may want to punish you because lots of things have been said in the heat of the moment. Maybe you said something that cut them really deeply. Just because you were dumped it doesn’t mean that your ex doesn’t care about what you think anymore. You still have an affect on them.
By refusing to speak to you, your ex is trying to hurt you like you hurt them. The more that you try to get a reaction or a response from them, the more they will dig their heals in and refuse to answer you. What you are actually doing is giving them exactly what they want. By continuing to communicate with your ex they know that you still care about them to some extent. If you have been emotional about their lack of response, they know that what they are doing has been working. Do you want to give your ex the satisfaction of knowing that they have won?
You need to try a little reverse psychology here. Give your ex what they least expect.
They Are Trying To Get A Reaction From You
Your ex may be curious about how you feel about them after a break up. The best way for them to find out is to do something that will get an instant reaction from you. By not talking to you, or ignoring you completely, they think that you will react strongly. They will be watching closely for your reaction and what you say or do when they ignore you. If you are angry or upset about being shoved to one side, your ex will know that you still have feelings for them. If you don’t seem that bothered about your ex disappearing from your life, then they know once and for all that you are no longer interested in them or that they can’t affect you.
The best thing that you can do here is to play your ex at their own game. They didn’t expect that you would ignore them back or seem disinterested in their non communication. When you don’t give them what they want – a reaction, they will become afraid that they could lose you for good and that you are moving on and getting over them. This will spur them into action. No longer will they ignore you, the opposite will happen in fact – your ex will be the one that makes all of the effort to stay in touch with you. Reverse psychology is a very powerful thing.
They Think That It Is The Quickest Way To Move On
Maybe your ex is finding it very difficult to cope with the breakup. They still have feelings for you and think that you don’t feel the same or that you are over them. The last thing that they want to do is prolong the agony by maintaining contact with the person that they love – it is just too painful. They want to get over you the quickest way possible and they think that their only option is to cut you out of their life completely. Hearing from you is killing them, they don’t want to know what is going on in your life because they can’t be part of it anymore. By cutting communication with you they are sparing themselves the agony of having to think about you every second of the day. The breakup is hard for them too, perhaps they are just trying to cope with the fallout the best way that they know how – protecting themselves against further hurt.
The trouble here is that they could actually move on by cutting ties with you. If your ex is determined enough to get over you, they will. No amount of texting them or pleading on them to reply to you will EVER work. You need a foolproof way to reinsert yourself back into your ex’s life before it is too late. Otherwise your ex will be gone for good. You can’t be obvious about it or allow your ex to know what you are trying to do, regaining their interest in you is a subtle art form.
Your Next Step – Get Your Ex To Want You Again
Your ex is refusing to answer your calls and acting like you don’t exist. You need to turn this around quickly before they move on completely. Luckily there are things that you can do and these reinsertion techniques have proven incredibly effective for people in your situation. The best thing about them are that your ex will not know what you are doing and will be slowly drawn to you all over again. You just have to know what you are doing and follow a proven plan.
This is where social psychologist, Brad Browning comes in. He is formulated a fail safe plan of action that will get your ex to want to talk to you, get them to make an effort with you again and create those old feelings or mystery, butterflies and attraction that they used to feel for you. Once you understand the psychology of the opposite sex, making your ex want you again is actually really easy.
In this system you will also learn why your ex is acting the way that they are after the breakup, how to break down their barriers and make them do all the running. You will also learn powerful attraction techniques that will recreate the romance and excitement that you both had when you first met. The system goes into great depth about how to make your ex miss you, how to make them regret the breakup and how to get them to commit to you. To find out more watch the free video and learn from the man himself. Good luck!