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How To Make My Ex Boyfriend Chase Me

How Do I Make My Ex Boyfriend Chase Me?

31551C802A5AC1EE5839FE1E0CD0Making Your Ex Boyfriend chase you is a difficult concept to get your head around, especially if you have just broken up an your ex boyfriend seems completely disinterested.

There is one course of action post-breakup that should be avoided at all costs if you’re hoping to win back your ex-boyfriend’s heart. You cannot chase him into reluctantly agreeing to give your relationship another chance. You should not be using overt methods at all. What you should pay attention to now are the tips and tricks that can get your ex to chase after you again. While it seems far-fetched, it is possible if you know how to behave post-breakup.

If you’ve ever had to chase down an escaped pet, you know how futile pursing them can be. The more you chase them, the faster they’re likely to run away from you. It’s only after you stop the pursuit that the animal you’re chasing will look around to see where you are – and most likely come trotting back to you without a second thought. While this strategy seems simplistic, it’s also quite profound.

There is nothing that you need to say to your ex right now that cannot wait until later. Stop thinking about all of the things you should have said so that you’re tempted to reach out and get in touch with him again. If you sincerely want to get our relationship back, you need to resist there impulses at all costs and focus on methods that actually give you a shot towards success.

How To Maintain Post Breakup Contact

qsm-img11One of the biggest mistakes you can make post-breakup is to continually try to insert yourself into your ex-boyfriend’s life once things are over. Like it or not, your relationship is at an end the moment that your ex-boyfriend calls it off.

Emotionally, the breakup can last a lot longer, and it’s likely that both of you are going to be wallowing in a lot of post-breakup negativity. Recognizing that this negativity is going to continue for a certain amount of time is pivotal towards moving to correct it – but you can’t just jump right in and try to get to work immediately following your breakup. There is a time and place for everything – and you and your ex both need to get some perspective and distance in order to come to a place of healing where reconciliation even becomes possible.

Keeping Your Distance From Him – How Important It Is

You’re not going to like this part, but you need to establish and maintain a no-contact policy once your relationship comes to an end. This is as much for your benefit as it is for your ex-boyfriends. This distance will allow two pivotal things to happen – and until they do, there is virtually no realistic way to piece a broken relationship back together again.

First, this distance will allow both of you to come to a realization about how much you truly miss each other. While you’re already certain that you miss your ex, he may be a little more reluctant to admit it – even to himself. It’s going to take time, and it’s going to take a complete and total absence on your part to bring it about. If you’re always around, he never has to miss you. He has you right there, and he doesn’t have to find out what life is like without him.

Secondly, it will allow some of the negativity to dissipate, and it will allow the hurt feelings to cool off a little bit. It may not seem like a big deal upfront, but it makes a hugely positive impact on the rest of your chances moving forward.

Keeping away from your ex boyfriend just not just mean in the physical world either. You need to stop all types of contact with him. Nowadays there is sensory overload with so much fast and easy communication methods. Get off Facebook for a few weeks and stop updating your wall in the hopes that your ex boyfriend will see what he is missing. It never works out the way that you think it will. Instead you will look desperate, needy and attention-seeking. The last thing that you want is for your ex boyfriend to think that you are trying to get his attention. How humiliating would that be?

The best thing that you can do in this situation is to disappear for a while and then he will start to wonder where you are. When you are not signed in on instant chat, not commenting or liking friend’s posts, he will be unsure of how you are and what is up. That is when he is most likely to reach out to you in concern.

He will be checking your Facebook wall after the breakup, no matter how messy your split was. It is only natural to be curious about your ex. He is relying on the fact that he can still see what you are up to and keep tabs on your life via Facebook. He knows that he doesn’t have to make a personal effort to stay in touch with you then. Do not make it that easy for him or give him the satisfaction.

If you want an ex boyfriend to chase you then you have to practice some self control. Staying off Facebook for a while may seem like an impossible task, but you will be glad that you did. It can be an emotionally draining platform where you read into everything way too much. Do yourself a favour and just unplug for a while. 

Why You Must Agree With And Accept The Breakup

The key to any successful reconciliation is keeping your ex-boyfriend on your toes and refusing to give in to his preconceived expectations. The last thing that he will be expecting when he breaks up with you is for you to turn around and agree to all of his reasons for ending the relationship. He expects you to put up a fight. If you agree to his justifications for walking away, you’re going to catch him completely off-guard. He’s not going to know what to say, and everything that he thought he knew about the breakup is going to be blown completely out of the water.

He’s going to have to completely reevaluate his situation. Instead of being the one to take the initiative to end things, he’s suddenly going to feel the need to defend your relationship – from you. He’s going to start thinking of all of the positive aspects of your relationship, rather than focusing on the things that caused it to fall apart. This is going to be a strange position for him, and it’s not going to be anything that ever occurred to him before now.

Strange as it may sound, you will actually gain more respect from him if you are not begging and pleading on him to give the relationship another go. You will come across as independent and he will realise that your life does not revolve around him. These are highly attractive traits that you should be exuding at all times. Your ex boyfriend thinks that he has you completely figured out. He has played over in his head how you would react to the breakup and thinks that he knows you inside out. Show him that he doesn’t and that there is more depth and strength of character than he imagined. This will quickly get him to take notice of you again and rethink his decision to break up with you. 

You Have Other Options Too

While all of these methods are proven to work, they’re not the only options that you should be focusing on. In fact, you should read up on as many reconciliation techniques as possible so that you can be prepared for whatever comes your way. By gaining knowledge and being able to head any potential problems off at the pass you can move forward in the reconciliation process and turn the tables in your favor.

The Importance Of Playing Hard To Get

5_How_to_forgive_him_to_get_him_backIt may immediately sound like you are playing mind games with your ex boyfriend. This is all part of the courtship game though and you need to be aware of it if you are to attract male attention in the future. The animal kingdom does it as well. It is all about psychology. You have probably seen certain girls that aren’t that funny, good looking or intelligent attract loads of guys. Maybe you have scratched your head and wondered what do they have that I haven’t?

Truth is that these girls have a certain charisma or charm that draws guys in like moths. You can have that too. There is no reason that you cannot be like those girls. It can be easily learned. 

There is a certain push and pull aspect to courtship. A guy will think that you are worth fighting for if you do not offer everything to him on a plate. You have to withhold part of yourself in the beginning to make him want to get to know you better. When a girl is mysterious she will naturally draw more attention from the male species.

Just take a look at the women around you. You know the types that are easy and dress up for the men because that is their main goal in life. They have very little else to offer a guy in terms of personality or intellect, so they use their bodies and looks to attract the opposite sex. They might get lots of superficial interest from males in the beginning, but no worthwhile guy will want to stay with a girl like this. These types of relationships are doomed to failure and are usually sort lived. This is because the guy doesn’t respect this type of girl. They just see her in physical terms. Lust wears off quickly. You want to be able to offer him more so that his interest in you is ongoing. 

Keeping this in mind after the breakup is essential if you want your ex boyfriend to chase you, just like he did when you first met. You have to realise your self worth or he never will. You don’t want to behave like these desperate superficial girls out in the clubs whose main purpose in life is to get male attention. That gets boring very quickly and he will be able to see through it if he has a brain in his head. 

Being guarded and not giving him everything at once is actually very attractive. He will immediately sit up and take notice of you again and start to wonder if the break up was a good idea. If you stop chasing him and replying to his texts, calls or emails immediately he will think that you are worth fighting for. Attraction is strange. When you don’t seem that interested or have a busy full life, you will immediately rise in his estimation and he will want to spend more time with you and know more. Men get bored very fast if they don’t have to fight for you. It is hard wired into the male psyche that they are the predator. They want to do the chasing because of the adrenaline rush. It is a natural instinct that you should allow to take place. Your ex boyfriend wants to chase you, not the other way round. 

Your Next Steps – Make Him Addicted To You


Getting your ex boyfriend to see you the way that he did before you first got together is the trick. Somewhere along the way you both got too comfortable with each other and the intrigue, passion and respect dwindled. It is not too late to change his mind about you. It is actually quite easy to make your ex boyfriend see you the way he once did. All you have to do is to understand the male mind and what is attractive to them. 

Chances are that you have been doing all the wrong things in the last weeks of your relationship and the period following your break up. Your ex boyfriend doesn’t respect you right now and this is key if you want him to start seeing you in a romantic light again. Luckily you can reverse this quite quickly by enacting certain behaviours that he will sit up and take notice of. 

Click here to watch the video to learn more about this powerful system and find out what you need to be doing right now. 

 The Ex Boyfriend System

This system will help you to get close to your ex boyfriend again and change how he sees you. You have to accept the fact that you changed in his eyes, otherwise you wouldn’t have broken up. You want to get him to see you like he use to when you first started dating. You can reignite these old feelings of attachment and encourage him to see you as mysterious, interesting, attractive and addictive.

By using key male psychological triggers he will start to interact with you again and show you interest. In essence you will be pulling him back towards you and he won’t even know that you are doing anything. These techniques are powerful, so please only use them on him if you are serious about getting him back or he could end up with a broken heart. 

Click here to watch the free video and find out more about this powerful system. 

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One Response to “How To Make My Ex Boyfriend Chase Me”

  • Satame Tola Kola says:

    He says he love me he says be happy thats all he wants yet he left me when i was at my worst point in life. He cares but he does have eyes for another. Yet he left her found me n now left me. Should I drop this hot rock or play the no contact rule n let the hot rock show his true love how hot his love is for which ever one he truly loves? I am not sure I can handle the hot rock playing like either of us are less then the other. What do u recommend? He left her found me left me is it possible there is yet more that he juggles out there? Yes always possible right. She has slept with him a few times I am sure since he never really left town only says he did. He left me and it makes me angry at both of them for lying and being STUPID. Ya know STUPID can not be fixed right!?.I could walk away n she may have already too n then just where would the hot rock be?? I am open to hear all views on this as I am not one who holds a grudge cuz it will only hurt me!! U see I really do love the hot rock n need truth to be so I can be or not be me.see it isnt so easy I am sure she has another on her line that makes the hot rock see he wasnt what he thought he was to her n he will never have that happen from me!!!

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