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Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous – Psychology To Win Him Back

How To Make An Ex Boyfriend Jealous After Your Breakup

So, you’re at rock bottom. It hurts after the breakup, especially when he seems to have moved on whilst you are still crazy about him. Your ex boyfriend doesn’t seem to care about you anymore and is ignoring you. You’re eager to reach out and contact him to get any kind of reaction. It’s the not knowing that is killing you. It is so important to hold back at this point though because how you look to your ex is a vital factor in making them jealous and getting them back.

You need to change tactics now to get him to sit up and notice you again. One of the best ways that you can achieve this is through JEALOUSY. That’s right, the green-eyed monster is an incredibly effective tool that you have in your arsenal to get a reaction from your ex boyfriend. Want to know how? First we have to understand why your ex boyfriend is behaving the way he is. 

His Behaviour Post Break Up

After a breakup your ex boyfriend is either feeling relieved or hurt. The last thing that he probably wants to do right now is contact you. He doesn’t want to lose face, it is a male ego thing. That doesn’t mean that he has moved on and has no more feelings for you. In fact, it could be quite the opposite. Maybe he wants you to make the first move. Maybe he is still angry with you and wants you to suffer and miss him. Maybe he is trying to get a reaction out of you too. It is a minefield of hot emotions after a split. People do all sorts of crazy things because feelings are fraught. 

Your ex boyfriend could be just as afraid of rejection as you are. That is why he is sitting tight, waiting for any clues from you that you are still interested in him. He may not want to appear weak in front of you either. If he is hurt about what happened, the last thing that he wants to risk is more heartbreak. So staying away from you and pretending that he doesn’t care may seem like the safest option for him right now. 

He may also just need time to process his feelings about your relationship and work out what went wrong. Having you around would only confuse the situation even more. Space after a breakup is a healthy thing, for you too. Try to respect his need for space immediately after your split. It’ll make you look a lot more reasonable and approachable when he is ready to make contact again.


Why Jealousy Is So Effective

There is a reason why many people use jealousy as their number one weapon in getting back an ex. It works it is works well. This is because jealousy provokes a strong emotional response from your ex boyfriend. It also creates a sense of urgency as you could be slipping away from him. Adrenaline will rise and he will panic. This is when he is most likely to react and contact you, whether he is angry or apologetic. 

It is also an age-old strategy that millions of people have used to quickly ascertain whether your ex boyfriend still has any feelings for you. If there is no reaction from him, then you can be pretty sure that he really has moved on. If he gets defensive, angry, upset or starts to contact you again, asking questions, then it is more than likely that he still holds feelings for you.

It is a much more effective strategy than writing emotional love letters to him, sending him constant texts and following him around like a lost puppy. It instantly makes you desirable to him again and changes his negative views towards you. It also encourages him to fight for you and makes him feel threatened that you could be lost forever to someone else or that you are getting over the relationship faster than he is. 

If you can get an emotional response from him, all of the good memories of your relationship will come flooding back to him and he will be much more open to a reconciliation. This being said though, there are so many different ways that you can use jealousy to your advantage. Some are more drastic and obvious than others. It depends upon how you want to play it. You could go all out and parade yourself in front of him with another guy, or you could take the more subtle approach so that he is unaware that you are even trying to make him jealous – a much more effective option. 

A Word Of Caution – When Jealousy Can Backfire on You

The last thing that you want your boyfriend to do is get suspicious and work out that you are trying to make him jealous. This would be an epic fail for you and end up making you appear desperate, foolish and manipulative. These are ugly and unattractive traits. You are trying to make your ex boyfriend want you again, remember?

That is why you have to approach the situation with a plan of action. You have to think about how you are going to make him jealous and make it look like your aren’t doing anything. Subtlety is key here. 

When you plaster selfies of yourself and your new love interest all over Facebook and Instagram, it is glaringly obvious what you are trying to do. The more you push for a reaction from him, the more you will push him away. 

This is also a dangerous strategy in that it will make your ex boyfriend view you negatively. The last thing that you want is for him to start hating you. Do you want appear as if you are underhand and manipulative? You want him to trust you right? You want him to want to give it another go. So, if he thinks that you are sluttish, have moved on quickly, or don’t care about his feelings, you will have lost your chance with him for good. 

Being too obvious is a no no. It makes you seem childish, immature and dishonest. You are trying to open the channels of communication again, not close them down for good. So, what are the best ways of using jealousy then? 

Jealousy Tactic 1 – Patience

Sometimes the best way that you can make your ex boyfriend jealous is to disappear for a while. Doubt breeds jealousy. When he doesn’t know where you have gone, if you are not on Facebook, if he isn’t getting texts from you, like he expected, this can quickly lead to the kind of jealousy that will eat away at him. He will be wondering why you are not in contact and be going through all sorts of scenarios in his head about what you are up to. Naturally he will think that you have moved on with someone else, or that you have already gotten over him.

This is a brilliant way to use jealousy in a subtle way. In fact, you are doing very little apart from engaging in self control. When you take yourself out of the picture he will begin to get paranoid. The best thing about this is that he will have no clue what you are doing, or that it was even your intention. You will start to become attractive and mysterious to him again and maintain your dignity. This tactic also forces his hand. He will be forced to make the first move and reach out and contact you.

Staying off social media is a must. That means no updates on Facebook, no cryptic tweets intended for him, no selfies for him to see what he is missing. It should be as if you have disappeared. If you want it to be effective you have to be patient. The longer you are way from all forms of contact, the faster he will notice that you have gone and the wheels will start to turn in his head. 

Patiently wait for him to miss you. Don’t go rushing in like a bull in a china shop. It can take time to stir up jealousy in your ex boyfriend and jealousy is something that he probably didn’t even expect to feel after the breakup. 

Jealousy Tactic 2 – Act Like You Have Moved On

Nothing will make your ex boyfriend jealous like showing him that you have moved on. He probably hopes that he will be the one to move on first. He didn’t count on the fact that you would be getting on with your life and happy again, just as if the breakup never happened. 

You should start posting on Facebook again about going out with friends and having fun. You don’t have to appear ecstatic or fill your diary with social engagements every day, but you do have to try and get on with your life and make him see that you are. If you appear positive and willing to get out there again, it is an attractive trait, much better than wallowing in self pity and hiding away in your bedroom clutching at the tissue box. 

Seeing that you are much better than he expected will make him feel jealousy. He will be jealous that he is not handling things as well as you are. He will start to ask himself why and begin to panic about what this actually means. If he thinks that you have slipped away and are over him, he is much more likely to bite the bullet and contact you.

There is a danger that you could go too far here though. You can act like you are so over him that he ends up thinking that he stands no chance with you. Be subtle about it. The more obvious that you are about it, the bitchier and colder you will look to him. The last thing that you want is for him to change his mind about you and feel negatively towards you. Still be nice about it and you will keep the lines of communication open.

Jealousy Tactic 3 – Start To Date Again

Just to be clear, dating guys again does not mean that you plaster pics of you throwing yourself at men all over your social media! It is better to go about things quietly. You would be surprised how fast news like this travels anyway. You don’t have to be the one who tells your ex boyfriend that you are dating again. In fact, it is much better if he hears it from someone else. His friends will be looking out for him and the news will get back to him fast. He will also be keeping a close eye on you and what you are doing post breakup, he can deduce that you are seeing someone else, even when you don’t explicitly say it. 

Once your ex boyfriend sees that you are with someone else, it will do major things to his jealousy levels. It will send him into a panic and make him act rashly. Don’t be surprised if you see him angry, or hear from him again all of a sudden. 

Please don’t rub salt in the wound though. If you parade your new love interests in his face it will look terribly bad on you. It will also turn your ex boyfriend off you for good as he will see you as untrustworthy and sly. You still have to have integrity here and think of his feelings. The feelings of the guy you are dating are important too. Be clear with him that you don’t want anything serious. Even better, find some new guy friends and spend time with them. That way you are not leading anyone on and your ex boyfriend can assume what he likes.

Your Next Step – Get Inside His Head

There are other tactics that you can start using now to make your ex boyfriend jealous and reconsider the breakup. Not only that, you can use so many more techniques that will play on male psychology to make him desire you again. Even if he is denying that he still likes you now. It is up to you to bring these latent feelings to the surface and coax them out. You need to understand what you are doing though or you could end up looking like a crazy stalker. You can use texts, Facebook, Whatssapp and Snapchat to your advantage and make him eager to communicate with you again.

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