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Signs He Wants Me Back – Learn To Decipher His Actions

Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back – Spot The Clues

There are certain things that you need to be aware of if you are trying to find out if your ex boyfriend wants you back. First of all, you need to realise that everything may not be as it seems. Just because he says or does something, it does not necessarily mean that this is how he is really feeling inside. This is even more true after a break up. We often do not act like ourselves and our emotions are all up in the air. The vibes that we give out are therefore mixed up too, so don’t despair if he is acting like he doesn’t care about you right now, the opposite may in fact be the case.

So, how can you tell how he actually feels then? Well it takes a little practice and you have to learn what exactly to look out for. Once you can appreciate exactly how males behave after a break up, you will be in a much better position to read between the lines. This is key here. You shouldn’t be expecting him to act like you after your break up, men and women are very different creatures and so how they deal with things will also differ. To be successful you have to be able to identify the behavioural patterns that are unique to men. This is what this article is going to teach you, so let’s get started now.

Who Broke Up With Who?

Did you decide to call a halt to the relationship or did he? Chances are, if you were the one that decided that it was time to end the relationship, your ex boyfriend probably still has feelings for you. Just because you were ready to end things, doesn’t mean he was. Dealing with these lingering feelings has probably been very tough for your ex boyfriend. He maybe hasn’t accepted that it is over between you both and is holding onto some hope that you can work things out in the future and that you will change your mind. This is natural.

Go easy on him, it can’t be easy watching you get on with your life whilst he is still pining for you. Watch out for him displaying the tell tale signs of being down and feeling sorry for himself. He may have retreated into himself since the breakup because it is the only way he nows how to deal with his emotional tumult. Give him time to work things out for himself. 

Perhaps it was your ex boyfriend who broke up with you? If this is the case, you probably feel that it is highly unlikely that he is still interested in you or wants you back. Actually, this is not true. People break up all the time on the heat of the moment. Emotions can be highly charged. Maybe he was upset over something you said or did and he wanted to hurt you as much as you hurt him. Guys dump women all the time, just to get a reaction out of them. In this scenario, your ex boyfriend is likely kicking himself right now and is desperately trying to figure out how to win you back. He will be dropping you hints that he still likes you, just to gage your reaction and see if he still has a chance with you. 

Even if the breakup didn’t come out of the blue, and wasn’t based on anger, your ex boyfriend could still regret it. It is possible that he didn’t realise how much he would miss you in his life. You were together all the time, you relied on each other. When you suddenly lose someone who was a huge part of your life, it is like dealing with a death. There is a certain grieving period where you miss and pine for that person desperately, and have to stop yourself from contacting them. There is a certain window of opportunity when you can get your ex back, so looking out for the signs and knowing how and when to act is essential. 

Does He Ask To Remain Friends After The Break Up?

ATTRACTING BACK AN EX, ATTRACT YOUR EX BACK, ATTRACT AN EXThis is a huge clue that he is not entirely done with you yet. He wants to know that you are a safe distance away and that he still has you in his life. This makes him feel more secure when he knows that you are there as a back up plan, should he later regret his decision to break up with you. He also asks to remain friends because he knows that he is going to miss you and that this is a better alternative to saying goodbye to you altogether. This may sound incredibly selfish, and it is. He is only thinking of his own needs after the break up and wants to wean himself off you gradually.

Do not allow this to happen if you want to get him back, slipping into the ‘friend zone‘ is a very bad idea. The last thing that you want him to do is to start thinking of you as a friend and only a friend. Once you start easing into this new relationship with him, he will get comfortable and want to keep it like that, this spells disaster for you as you know that you want more. The important thing to remember here is that you can‘t just give him what he wants with no thought to your own needs. It will only eat you up inside and make you even more disappointed in the long run when you have waited on him to change his mind and he hasn’t.

You must start looking at things from his perspective instead if you want to be successful. The key here is to make him sit up and take notice. Make him feel like he is actually giving you up completely when he breaks up with you. If you have self respect for yourself and show him that you deserve better, he will likewise start respecting you too. Don’t lie to yourself that friendship is an acceptable middle-ground for you when what you really want is a romantic relationship. When he knows that he really stands a chance of losing you in his life then he will be forced to rethink the break up and think about whether it is worth it if he doesn’t have you in his life anymore.

Does your ex boyfriend still want to hang out with your post breakup? Look out for him treating you like one of the guys. If you are still meeting up with him all of the time to hangout, ask yourself why. You will instinctively know from his body language whether he sees you as just a friend or something more. There will be flirting when you meet up, you will find him catching a glimpse of you, you will see love in his eyes. If this happens, you can be sure that he is just lying to himself that you are just good friends. He wants all the benefits of your company, without the commitment. Don’t make it easy for him. If he really wants you back, he will have to tell you.

The friendship sign is one of the biggest clues that you should be looking out for after your break up. It is one of the big signs your ex boyfriend still likes you. Think about this for a second. If he really was ready to move on and wasn’t interested in you anymore, why would he even bother to remain friends? He would have a whole new future ahead of him and he wouldn’t really need you anymore.

Of course he could just be saying it as a cushion when he dumps you, just to make you feel like there is hope and lessen the hurt. If this is the case he will make no effort to contact you after the break up at all. This is when you will know that he wasn’t serious about remaining friends at all, it was just a thing to say, perhaps out of guilt. This brings us onto our next clue.

Does He Still Contact You After The Break Up?

This is another huge sign that he still has emotional bonds to you that he is finding hard to break. Look out for him texting you for no particular reason at all and ringing you just to see how you are. When there is no real point to his conversation and he starts to ramble a bit or seem nervous, you can be sure that he still has feelings for you and that you still have an impact on him. The number of times that your ex boyfriend contacts you obviously is a sign of how much he misses you.

If you find him leaving you messages on your Facebook wall or he is emailing you, always on msn or live chat, you can be sure that he is looking for excuses to talk to you and he hopes that you will initiate the conversation. When he leave these channels of communication open, it means that he is still open to the idea of you as a potential girlfriend. He hasn’t shut the door on this entirely yet. If he had he would have no interest in keeping in touch with you. If you want to get him back then you will have to learn how to use this contact to your advantage to make him crave you.

When your ex boyfriend contacts you at the weekends, or if he is drunk when he calls or leaves voice messages, you can be sure that you are on his mind. Alcohol will bring his defences down and he will be emotional, this is when you can get a real insight into how he is feeling about you.

Perhaps he is out with friends trying to move on with his life, drowning his sorrows to quell the pain of losing you. The last thing that he should be doing when he is out partying with his mates, is thinking about his ex girlfriend, or contacting her. He should be having fun and looking at other girls. This is a HUGE sign that he is not over you yet and wants you back in his life. 

What Does He Say To You?

It is also a good idea to watch out for what he says when he does contact you. Is he asking you lots of questions about yourself and what you have been up to? This is an indicator that he is worried that you are moving on without him, that you are out there meeting new people and having fun. This is something that he didn’t expect when he broke up with you, he wanted to be the one that moved on first. He will casually ask about what your plans are for the weekend and who you are doing them with because he is still interested in you.

Also watch out for him starting to reminisce about your past history. If he talks about what you used to do together or brings up happy memories, then he is firmly living in the past and the present without you isn’t so appealing. He will also be bringing up the past to gauge whether you feel the same way as he does and find out if you are missing him too. Remember he won’t say things in so many words as he is trying to protect his ego, but he will allude to them to work out where he stands.

Maybe he is taking more of an interest in your life than he did when you were together. He could be worried that you are moving on faster than he is, and even worse, that there is some new guy in your life. He will ask leading questions about your plans to ascertain where he stands with you. He is not going to ask you outright if you have a new boyfriend, or if you are over him. He will employ more subtle techniques to get the answers that he is looking for. 

Is He Trying To Get Your Attention?

The male ego is a powerful thing. Your ex boyfriend isn’t going to just come right out and tell you how he feels, or that he wants you back. There is just too much for him to lose by doing that. He stands a really big chance of getting hurt and his heart being broken even more. He also risks damaging his pride and looking like a fool in front of you and his friends. This is the last thing that he wants, so he is naturally going to take the safer approach, the one where he gets the answers he wants without losing face. This is why you have to be smart in reading the signs that he wants you back for yourself. Your female instinct is a powerful tool that you have at your disposal, you just have to sharpen your skills to read between the lines.

Your ex boyfriend doesn’t have to be standing outside of your house dressed up as white knight and playing you love songs on his guitar, to be looking for your attention. It is not as obvious as that unfortunately. You may not even be in direct contact with him at all. This doesn’t mean that he is not trying to send you a message or provoke a reaction from you. 

We live in the age of social media and technology. There are so many more subtle and clever ways that your ex boyfriend could be trying to get your attention. Read between the lines and recognise whether he is doing things for your benefit or not.

Of course, it all depends on when you broke up too. If your relationship ended years ago, the chances are very slim that your ex boyfriend is trying to get you back at all. It is highly likely that he has moved on and you are not on his radar at all. However, if the breakup was in this last few weeks or months, your ex boyfriend is still probably confused and hurting and you are most definitely still on his mind. 

So how could he be trying to get your attention then? Well, there are several things to look out for. If you are friends with him on social media, pay attention to what he is posting or saying on his wall or account. It could just be as simple as him suddenly posting lots of pictures of himself out having fun with the guys. Maybe there are girls that you don’t know in the pictures.

If he was never the type of guy to post selfies on his wall or Instagram, and he has developed a sudden need for doing so, you can be sure that it is for your benefit. Why would he bother otherwise? He knows that you are still following him or still his Facebook friend, so he is aware that you will see these pictures. He wants to provoke an emotional reaction in you, to get you to react to them. This will tell him that you still have feelings for him and that you are jealous of these girls and seeing him getting on with his life without you. It is a very clever move on his part. The jealousy tactic works well when it is done correctly. 

Watch out for him commenting on your pictures, wall or account, or even your friends’ walls. He will know that you will see the things he says and he is testing you to see if you reply. Trying to encourage you into dialogue with him again is a great way for him to ascertain whether he still has an affect on you.

The more that you communicate with him on social media, the more he will be dropping hints that he wants you back. Gradually this online chat will develop into more personal forms of communication, like Whatssapp, texts and phone calls. If he is trying to recreate emotional attachments with you again and spends a lot of time talking to you, it is a sure sign that he is still interested in you, why would be bother otherwise?

You have probably already heard that guys will pick on girls that they like. This has probably already happened to you in school. Guys want to interact with you on any level at all, and they don’t want to bruise their egos, by following you around like a lost puppy to get your attention, so they will try the other tactic first. It is actually their way of flirting with you. The same goes for your ex boyfriend. Watch out for him trying to poke fun at you or be playful with you. He will be conscious of your reaction to his jibes as he wants to know if he still has any kind of affect on you. When this playful banter develops into flirting, you can be sure that your ex boyfriend wants you back and still sees you in a romantic light. 

Your Next Steps – Make Him Want You

Now that you understand that not everything is as it seems, you will have to dig a little deeper and be able to read his body language. These are not all or the signs he wants you back and still likes you, there are many more that you have to look out for if you want to know where you stand. The last thing that you want to be doing is to be making a fool of yourself if he doesn’t feel the same way.

After that it would be a really good idea to stay away from these break up mistakes. If you are guilty of doing some of these things then you can reverse this by using some specific psychological techniques. When you know to stay away from these then you will have a much better chance of winning him back. When you are ready to start putting in some work to get your ex boyfriend back, then you can use several clever Facebook techniques to completely reverse how he feels about you. You will notice a huge change in the way he acts with you and start to make him chase you if you use them properly.

Watch the video above if you want to learn more about the male psyche and why they behave the way that they do post breakup. If you are serious about getting your ex boyfriend back, then you will need to learn the techniques that will pull him back into your life and make him crazy about you again. You want him to be the one who is doing the chasing. Brad Browning will teach you how to make him desperate for you by doing a few simple things. 

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