Make Your Ex Want You – Learn How
Getting back together after a breakup is not something that can be easily accomplished overnight. It’s not a simple decision to be made and one corrective action to be taken. Getting back together after a breakup is a lengthy (and sometimes tedious) process that will require patience, effort and time on your part.
You’re going to be faced with a lot of challenges along the road that will have to be dealt with before you can move on. Before you deal with them, however, you will have to know what they are. Before moving off in any direction, keep one thing in mind – no matter how hopeless your situation may seem at the moment, it’s not insurmountable. Getting back together is possible, and it’s not as difficult as you fear.
One of the first hurdles that will need to be overcome is the inevitability of being pushed away. Your ex is going to want to put a lot of space between them and you as a cushion. They don’t want to have to deal with their feelings of guilt over leaving you, and they don’t want the continued reminder of the relationship you once shared. More than any other reason, your ex doesn’t want to have to deal with their residual feelings towards you, and if you’re still a big part of their reality, those feelings will inevitably rise to the surface.
Although they separate themselves from you physically and emotionally, their feelings are still in a state of turmoil. No matter what triggered the breakup or how volatile it may have seemed, your ex still doubts their decision to end things. They’re still going over the scenario in their mind repeatedly. This doubt combines with your continued attempts to reach out and contact them and gives them a sense of security that they are counting on in the upcoming weeks. They know instinctively that if they change their minds, they can easily get you back. They won’t ever intend on using this backup, but knowing it’s there is enough to allow them the extra security to move forward – and eventually leave you behind for good.
Human Psychology – Desiring The Unattainable
Take a moment to switch places with your ex and enter their mindset. You are desperate and anxious over the loss of your relationship and your brain is probably scrambling to come up with any solution you can employ to get it back while your ex seems cool, calm and collected. Why do you think that is?
Truthfully, your ex hasn’t experienced that loss even though the terminated the relationship. They know that you’re still there. You’re still giving them the attention that they want – the attention that makes them feel good about themselves and their decision. They are well aware of your feelings towards them and they feel like they have you in their back pocket – they know that they can still have you if they want you.
Because of that sense of assuredness, they haven’t truly had to face the loss in the same way that you have. The pressure and desperation that you’re feeling doesn’t apply to them. They took the control of the relationship when they ended it, and they believe that the still have it and will hold onto that control until they decide to let it go completely.
In order to get back together with your ex, that security that they’re currently feeling needs to be taken away. They need to be forced to face the possibility of you moving on without them and understand that they could see you leave for good. Until that happens, they have no cause to act. They’re the king/queen of the mountain, and there’s no reason to give up their upper hand. They won’t surrender it willingly. They won’t feel the same loss you do until that control is taken back – until they face the truth that the relationship is over and until you demonstrate your ability to move on. Watch out for signs your ex is over you to ascertain how they really feel about you now.
Make Your Ex See You As A Potential Partner Again
Breakups stick people into the maze of their own minds. Your thoughts and feelings are overwhelming and it’s hard to think about anything else. You’re completely engrossed in your desire to reconnect with your ex that you’re not able to detach yourself from the situation in order to understand what they’re really after and the reality of what you have to offer.
It may seem harsh to come face to face with the reality that the face you’re presenting right now may not be an ideal match. Think about it honestly – would you go out with yourself right now? The answer is probably no. If that’s the case, then some adjustments need to be made. Think of yourself as a sales person. You have to market yourself correctly before anyone will want to invest – including your ex.
Don’t let this golden opportunity go to waste. Don’t bother trying to mold yourself into the perfect die-cast replica of what you imagine your ex really wants. You can’t win back a broken relationship based on promises made out of fear. Your ex knows this tactic all too well, and it won’t do either of you any favors. If you promise to change underlying parts of yourself or your personality just to make someone else happy, it can’t work out. You’ll grow to have negative feelings towards that person which will make a successful relationship impossible.
Take a long, hard, honest look at yourself. There are probably areas that could use some work. There are probably things that can easily come to mind if you consider them where you could fine-tune some of the rougher parts of your personality, your reactions, your temper or your instincts. Focuses on those instead of areas that you think your ex wishes were different.
Think back to the beginning. Your ex couldn’t get enough of you. They found you attractive, interesting, funny and intriguing. There are some simple ways to get that initial spark back. If you can do that, you can change the way your ex sees you. They’ll start seeing you as a potential partner again. That’s when they’ll rediscover their desire for you again, and that’s when you have the best chance of rekindling your relationship. If you can learn the top 10 tricks to ignite that initial spark again, you can regain a lasting, healthy relationship that will benefit you both.
Simple Steps To Rekindle Attraction
While your ex is busy putting as much space between the two of you as possible, you have a golden opportunity to do some major work. Don’t waste it by trying to become someone that you’re not. Try to get your old self back – the person that your ex was dying to spend time with when you first started dating. Something may have one askew somewhere along the way, but it’s not too late. They fell in love with you for a reason.
These steps allow you to take the course of your relationship into your own hands. Sitting on the sidelines and watching life play out around you will do nothing to get you back to where you want to be. You need to take action if you want your dreams of reconciliation to come true.
Step 1 – Reclaim Your Individuality
Couples often meld into a combined unit while they are dating. Instead of being two, unique and independent people, it is easy to slip into the “us” role. Your friends refer to both of you together. Your family does, too. It’s easy to see how individual aspects of both parties can be lost in the shuffle. In order to start becoming someone your ex will be interested in, you need to figure out what makes you unique and redevelop your sense of self.
You’ve probably spent all your free time with your ex for a long period of time. Now it’s natural to want to be with them and turn to them when you feel alone. Most people turn loneliness into obsession and go chasing after their ex in a desperate attempt to make them change their mind. This is a huge mistake. Desperation is never an attractive quality and if you succumb to the urge, you’re only going to push your ex away.
Your ex was probably drawn to your uniqueness when you first met. They enjoyed the person you were – you were in control of your life and completely autonomous. In order to get their attention again, this confidence and independence needs to be revitalized and brought to the surface. You’re growing into the person that they initially fell for and you’re not looking broken-hearted or needy like you may have seemed after the breakup. This will instantly create an interest in the mind of your ex and help you on the road to winning them back for good.
Step 2 – Assert Self-Confidence
Men and women are both drawn to people who are certain of their own worth and can exude confidence and assuredness without seeming arrogant. Confidence is the driving force behind accomplishment. It shines brightly and allows even the most desperate of situations to turn around. Simply knowing something is possible rather than wondering if it is can make or break the reality of it happening. If you can learn to be confident without letting it grow into self-centeredness or arrogance, there is pretty much nothing that cannot be done.
Confidence seems to take a flying leap out the window during a breakup, though, and it can be difficult to get back. Don’t let this bump in the road get you down for too long. If you approach the situation with a self-assured, calm attitude you are much more likely to succeed than if you let your insecurity get the best of you.
Step 3 – Create Full Bodied Attraction – External And Internal Growth
One of the biggest things that are taken for granted throughout the normal course of a romantic relationship is the level of comfort you grow to share with another person. As you get more and more comfortable together, it is easy to let some things fall by the wayside. Maybe you stopped going to the gym every day so you could be home in time for dinner. Maybe you stopped your diet because you ate most of your meals together.
The good news is that as long as there is room for growth, corrective action can be taken. Exercise has proven to be a natural mood enhancer and it can help you clear your mind. During this period of limited or no contact, you should be focusing on yourself and getting yourself back into prime shape, both mentally and physically.
If you start taking steps towards improvement and setting goals that you can reach physically, your self-confidence will spike naturally. You’ll start to feel better about yourself, and that will boost your self-image and let you start to feel like yourself again. You can throw yourself into running every day or get together with your friends who play basketball after work.
Throw yourself into physical activity and watch the reaction you get from the people in your everyday life. Everyone will start to notice a very big change in your appearance and your attitude – including your ex. If you start making the effort to take care of yourself and actively work towards achieving your physical goals, the inner change will be obvious to everyone. Your ex will start to regain their attraction towards you that they had at the beginning of your relationship and this attraction will become harder and harder to ignore. You’re on the right track, and you’re increasing your chances with every step you take.
Step 4 – Enjoy Your Life
How long have you been stuck in a pity party for one? By nature, pity parties don’t welcome guests and they aren’t a lot of fun. They may feel good at first, but sitting around on the couch waiting for the phone to ring isn’t the epitome of enjoyment – and you know it. Getting out there and enjoying life is one of the quickest ways to regain your ex’s attention, and it sets the ball rolling in the right direction.
If your ex sees you out with your friends laughing, talking and having a wonderful time, they’re going to start to second-guess themselves. It’s a natural part of the process. Remember, they’re expecting to still have control of the situation. You’re their backup plan in case things go awry. When their backup plan starts making it obvious that they’re not content being placed on a side burner and they’re going to jump into the fire instead, your ex’s confidence is going to take a nose dive. They’re suddenly faced with a reality that they never expected – what if you’re moving on without them, and they’re still alone?
Attraction Tip – Your ex is only going to want you if they think that you are worth having. If they see you sitting around and being miserable, they will want no part of that. We are only attracted to people who we think will make us happy. If there is something missing in your ex’s life, they will want to fill it, you can be the one that provides this missing piece. Be positive and throw yourself into as many exciting things as possible. Not only will you start to think more of yourself, but your ex will see you in a whole new light and want you again.
Your ex has probably convinced themselves that they were your source of happiness. You always did things together. They got to hear all your funny stories, and they were always able to make you laugh. By proving to them that you can enjoy yourself without them, you are making them see things differently. Not only are you reconnecting with friends that you haven’t spent a lot of time with, but you’re experiencing life to the fullest. You’re out there being social and you’re appearing more and more like the person your ex fell for in the first place. You’re making all the right moves here, and this is where you startto really get the upper-hand.
If your ex sees you out socially, especially if you’re talking to someone of the opposite sex, their jealousy is going to start to kick in whether they want it to or not. Even though you may not be ready to date yet, they won’t know that. They’ll see you talking to someone else and realize that they may have made a big mistake. You’re obviously still on the market, and you’re selling yourself quite effectively. You’re going to start to look pretty good and your ex won’t be able to deny it. They fell for that person, and that person has suddenly reappeared on the scene and taken them by complete surprise.
The good news is that you don’t even have to try. Just enjoying yourself is enough to trigger that jealousy in your ex. Trying to make them jealous on purpose will backfire, so don’t go out of your way to make your intentions obvious. Just enjoy yourself and meet some new people. You’re working hard without having to put in a lot of hard work, and your efforts are close to paying off.
Wanting What You Can’t Have
There is a little known saying that we all want what we cannot have. This is true to a large extent. If something seems unattainable, we work all the harder to get it. If something is rare and expensive, we will save longer and harder to have it, thereby cherishing it all the more. The same goes for people too. If you are handing yourself to your ex on a plate, there is no way that they will want you. You need to create a sense of scarcity for your ex to value you again. You need to make your ex realise that they cannot just click their fingers and you will come running. That is what they think post breakup sadly. They know that they only have to send you a text or ring you and you will be falling over yourself to talk to them and meet up for a catchup, or even be a friend with benefits. They know that you will put up with any kind of crappy behaviour from them just for a chance to get back together again.
Far from making your ex want you, being too available only makes them see you as cheap. You don’t have to sleep with them to make them subconsciously devalue you. All that has to happen is for you to appear too eager to speak to them. You have to make them work for you, value your time and see you as special. The easiest way for you to do this is to take a step back and appear busy and unattainable to your ex.
Don’t rush to answer every text that they send. Don’t even reply to some of them or give short but friendly replies. When you seem too interested and eager, it will have the opposite affect that you want. To create desire and interest in your ex and to make them want you, you need to create distance between you. Your ex wont want you if you are always there waiting for them.
Your Next Step – Create Desire And Emotional Attachments With Your Ex To Get Them Back
You’ve gone through a long, hard road to get to the place you are now. The last thing you want to do is blow it by sticking your foot in your mouth and saying something that can reverse the process and put you back where you started. You need to know what to say and when to say it in order to enhance your chances of reconciliation and avoid unintentional mistakes.
The Text Your Ex Back System was designed by Michael Fiore and it is designed to take communication to the next level by focusing on the 5 integral concepts that need to be implemented before further steps can be taken. These complicated essentials are laid out in simple, easy-to-understand language that guides you through the process and takes you to the next level. The system shows you how emotions can be triggered through simple messages – and how to use those messages to your advantage.
From there, creator Michael Fiore lays it all out clearly. He shows you which messages to send and when to send them in order to get the result you want. With specific detailed examples included, this system is easy to use and quick to implement and can show you the magic of text messages by unlocking their true potential. As well as texts that can work to your advantage, the system includes warnings about messages that should not be sent. Using this system will put you in control of the contact you have with your ex and show you step by step how to use texts to your advantage. To learn more about this unique and effective program, check out the free introduction video now.
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